The other day I was reading a blog by one of these so-called “relationship experts” and a man wrote in to her asking how he could master the art of talking to women. Her advice to him was not to get better at talking to women but instead find one that he likes, befriend her and get with her that way. I thought it was some of the worst advice given to a man because many women have told me how they hate when a man comes at them from the friendship angle. I can understand this as it is not a genuine relationship and pretty much a bait and switch for her.
I always tell men that they need to get their rejection bumps in so that the jitters and unpleasant feelings from a woman saying “NO!” is no longer in the equation when approaching.
The advice she gave to this guy gets a lot of men in the friend zone where they will never get anywhere with her outside of being her “BFF” while the sexual tension eats them alive.
Stop Looking For A How-To Manual
Men, you should really not be looking to blogs for relationship advice if you are all about approaching. Talk to a seasoned veteran or a guy that is really good at talking to women and learn from them what makes it easy to follow-through. A guy doesn’t even have to have stripes to give advice. I have friends who are irresistible to women not because of their looks but because of their charisma.
You get a woman in their face and she will be giggling and having a good time before long, then when they leave she’ll be asking about them like crazy. These guys have mastered the game and they aren’t your stereotypical serial daters, wolves or douchebags.
They aren’t running through chicks left and right; they are just nice guys that have a personality. Above all else, they aren’t afraid of women and they can tell you what works for them. See it’s up to you to try and better yourself in their skills. Going to relationship blogs (mine included) and listening to people who have no clue as to what theories they write about will only end up with you being frustrated annoyed and lonely.
Tap your friend who’s knocking these girls out left and right and get advice from him. One thing I can tell you which is a mistake that a lot of wannabe players make is that most players aren’t as discriminatory about a woman’s looks as you would think. Most of the guys I know of that are constantly in something will take any woman from a 4 to a 10. The only difference is that you will hear about the 8s the 9s ad the 10s, but he will not tell you about the lower numbers that he has stored in his cell phone.
There’s all sorts of things to this and my main point is that approaching like a friend is definitely not the way to go in bettering yourself at getting with women.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.