May 10

Disgruntled woman

There’s an interesting occurrence that comes up whenever you mix one part single, pretty girl with a few non-confident guys that like her and an oblivious confident guy who merely sees her has dating potential. See, the confident guy will have sex with some effort and attention given, while the other lot will sit back and become both resentful and hateful of them both. What makes this even more interesting is that 60% of the guys will ignore her, 10% will try lines and PUA games, and the other 30% will pretend as if they didn’t care either way.

It starts in school when us boys finally figure out that girls are pretty and that having a pretty one as our girlfriend will make us more like our uncles or our Alpha Male heroes that are shown on TV. Little boys being naturally shy will write notes to the girl, send a friend to ask her out, or any number of formal things to avoid rejection in hopes that she will check “yes” on the like box and fulfill their fantasies. At that time it’s innocent, but as we get older and more cognizant of how rejection works, the resentment factor seeps it’s way in to the point where many men assume that pretty women are stuck up divas.

What many adult men will do upon seeing a beauty is to immediately go on the defensive about their feelings. They play the background, avoid eye-contact, never engage in conversation and some will even become aggressively violent, just to force an engagement which doesn’t start with them making the introduction. Sad, I know… if you’re a woman reading this I am quite sure that I am not telling you anything new, now am I? We men do this, and if you’re wondering as to why, I will tell you. Men do this in hopes that you will go out of your way to win their attention since we all believe that you want every single male’s attention within your aura.

Russell and His Advice

Coming up I knew this kid named Russell who tried to impart some knowledge on me about pretty women just because he managed to score one of the better looking girls in my High School and thought himself the expert.

His advice went something like this “See Greg the reason why you don’t have a girl as bad as mine is because you’re too nice to them. When you walk up to girls you say shit like ‘how you ladies doing’, when I walk up to them I say ‘how y’all hoes doing?’ and that’s why I get so much pussy” – I wish I could say that I followed Russell’s advice but I didn’t, he just struck me as a loser who was full of it, living out what would be the best years of his entire life so I let him have that. What Russell does show us however is that men are actually encouraged to treat pretty girls like crap in order to get ahead with them. Imagine that.

The problem is that unlike Russell who found the right pretty girl with the right amount of low self-esteem, most women will ignore the guy pouting in the background, pretending to not give a damn about her. If this is supposed to be game then it’s a terrible one. If you talk to every single girl in a room except the beautiful one, she will automatically know that you are a herb. If you take a beautiful woman out and pretend as if you don’t notice that she’s hot as hell, then she knows that you are trying way too hard to normalize her.  It doesn’t work!

If you want to talk to beautiful women, take a page from the Wolf handbook and treat them just like every other woman that you’ve liked. Engage her, impress her, then bag her and call it a night. Ignoring someone will not force them to win you over to their side unless they are running for governor. Check your game fellas! We are better than these grade-school antics and the game does not favor us with this passive-aggressive tactic.

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  • Adele

    Guys have told me I’m one of the better looking ladies in my grad class and I remember the first semester it was like a mad dash to get in my pants and date me. Almost all the guys had obvious and lame game. The most confident was the alpha and we ended up dating for a while. And everybody was hating, male and female, and trying to break us up. Now I know I’m not crazy lol!!

    • yo yo

      This is why I get so much satisfaction by putting alpha males in hospitals. Their so called alpha is thrown out the window!!!

      Don’t bring up that alpha male nonsense that only exists in the animal world. Looks like we have to many animal minded females, maybe it’s true, as I’ve heard before,”woman are dirtier that men when it come to sex”.

  • BetterButter

    LOL. Or maybe I just don’t care? If I abandoned my friends every time a pretty girl walked into the room, I doubt I’d have any friends left before long. Sorry for being popular in social situations.

  • Juice

    Some parts of this article is full of crap. What does this even mean? ” If you take a beautiful woman out and pretend as if you don’t notice that she’s hot as hell, then she knows that you are trying way too hard to normalize her. It doesn’t work!”
    Seriously dude?

    So because someone knows how to put on her make up all of a sudden people must now start acting like brainless, gawking zombies with little to no self esteem? This sounds like it was written by a guy with zero confidence and comfortability in himself as a man. Putting myself in the mind of a “pretty girl”, I would feel pretty fawking bored and frankly irritated if every person of the opposite sex I spoke to acted like a drooling idiot just because I said hi to them.

    I would feel more comfortable with someone who has enough self control and self-respect to not act like I’m better than them, because I really wouldn’t be. I would prefer such people as they would give me perspective, and would bluntly tell me things as they are, not trying to french my arse with lies and sweet words. If I was going to have a relationship with someone, it would be with someone like that who’s self awareness demands mutual respect and who would accept nothing less.

    Men and women aren’t neccessarily wired that differently if you actually employ the tool of empathy. It’s just different circumstance.

    • yogagirl

      I am going through this situation with someone at work and I must say it is driving me mad a little because I am attracted to him. But your response to this article pretty much nailed the response I am going to give his passive aggressive b.s. from now on. Thanks!

      • afaf

        Don’t assume things just because you read an article. How self-centered & insecure are you? Maybe he did nothing to you & you’re interpreting everything wrong?

      • mi

        You ASSUME that I am self centered and insecure before even knowing the whole story. Anyway, I’ve already moved on from this many months ago. Thanks for your “enlightening” words.

    • Mayz

      *applause*

    • Mallory

      Dear God you over generalized the entire thing by trying TOO hard to find a reason to argue. The author is simply saying that taking a beautiful woman out and not telling her she “looks lovely tonight,” is just another childish technique that many men will try to employ to deflect their level of interests. It’s a petty game and whether you think the woman is beautiful or not isn’t really the point. The point is that beautiful or not, a woman would be appreciative If a man paid her a kind it compliment. That does not go to say that a woman is desperate for reassurance of her value, a woman can be sure of her value and self worth but still find a kind compliment as a beautiful gesture—we aren’t neanderthals, we can be self assured and still know how tot receive compliments without expecting them.

      The point. Don’t choose to downplay someone’s features, pluses, and character traits just to deflect the magnitude of your feelings.

      Context clues can be your friend.

      • Andibelle Hudson

        Amen lol…some people are too quick to jump in to disagree without actually sitting back taking a moment to take it all in and think it through logically, as i understood completely what the author of this article was trying to say.
        A guy that tries to play down the looks of the woman he’s with really makes me sick to be honest. He denies her a “you look absoloutely beautiful today” after she’s made an effort just because he is trying to use the “treat them mean keep them keen” scenario. He wants to be with a beautiful woman but pretends to her he’s not really bothered if he’s with her or not in order for her to stay with him…..lol….and this is what men do because of their own insecurities.

  • Allison

    I personally would lose interest when a guy ignores me. Stop those silly games please.

    • Bongstar420

      Woot

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  • John

    We ignore you because men know that women don’t need us. If a woman doesn’t approach me they are not interested.

    • Ashley

      Not true. Most women don’t approach men and like men who approach them. If you’re too scared to approach a woman, you might miss out on one who is actually interested…

      • Mallory

        It’s so sad how society has made wimps out of men. It’s almost like a catch 22 this whole modern dating scene. Men want to be treated like men yet they are too afraid to be the pursuer–one of the natural, biological roles as a man. They also want women to act like a woman, yet in the same breath expect us to be the pursuer–when we do just that, then we are persecuted for being too much of an independent woman doing a “man’s job.”

        All I will say is that men set he tone for The type of woman that will become the standard. Men wanted women to be looser and easier to get into bed and that’s what they have now. 100 years ago men wanted women to be pure and chaste and that’s what women were.

        **for all you feminist out there, don’t start, this is an observation but it does not mean you yourself must be ruled by it.***

      • Andibelle Hudson

        I totally agree with your comment. The comment you made about men wanting women to be more easier to get into bed and this is how society has become where its almost normal on any given day for a man and a woman to have a one night stand with each other. I’m not saying that all men and all women do this but what i am saying is it has become common nowadays.
        Men in my opinion should always be the pursuer, the one that approaches the woman. A woman will always show an interest in a man if he has already caught her eye, and how a man will know this is by both of them catching each others gaze or by her smiling at him for no particular reason or by her suddenly being where he hangs out etc etc….but to ignore a woman and think he’s going to get somewhere with that approach is to just be deluding himself.
        Of course a woman can approach a man but i feel the first initial encounter should always be made from a man. It worked years and years ago and its about time it was reinstated back today….i’m tired of the feeble man and the aggressive woman phenomenon lol
        Allow men to be gentleman and women to be ladies, thats my moto and stop all this game playing!!!

      • yo yo

        The first initial counter by a man ??? Re-evaluate you animal world thinking we a humans. You expect the man to do first encounter. I don’t think that is fair humanly. It should be 50/50. In the animal world your comment makes total sense. Don’t be lazy and expect expect expect. There is a thing called give & take, balance. I seeing it’s all one sided by you female comments.

        If your an animal it makes total sense. Unfortunately for you animal thinking minds it’s not the case. Women use your mind and do what we have always done it’s not hard but men like me are over it as sn excuse and also in real life. I never approach a woman anymore knowing I’ve approach many to no avail and I’m honestly over it. NOT a whimp just over it. It’s time for them to approach me…. Balance ladies, balance.

        What would you do if you kept trying to get what you want be couldn’t get it. Answer you get over it real fucking quick after trying so hard prior.

        I hope this will open your minds, if not we’ll we just gonna go round in circles… Yes we man & woman

      • Bongstar420

        In the animal world, pheromones guarantee the male gets laid by his prospects. Its competition with other males that gets in the way.

        with humans, the dude can win the male competition and still get rejected…whats worse is that she will egg him on because it makes her feel good to watch men waste their time trying to have sex with her.

      • yo yo

        Expect expect expect, that’s all you women ever do. Think you can just do nothing and life just works for you. Man money and everything to just fall on your lap. Grow up now…

      • Andibelle Hudson

        Lol that’s not true of all women, granted some do expect expect expect but that’s also true of some men too….isn’t it. What I’m saying is this, a man always knows when a woman is interested (unless he is blind dumb n deaf) and likewise for women, so if a man approaches a woman he feels likes him there is always a 50/50 chance he’ll get somewhere and aren’t we all supposed to look at the glass as “half full” instead of “half empty”??? Be optimistic Yo Yo as opposed to pessimistic 😉😉😉 lol

      • yo yo

        Fair enough, although It just happens naturally in many of my cases. Like chatting to a woman that I see everyday that works at the coffee shop or whatever. Just gotta keep chatting I guess

      • Andibelle Hudson

        If you like her then ask her out…she may very well be waiting for you to do so 😊

      • yo yo

        Thanx for the tip have a nice day!

      • Bongstar420

        Well, she deserves to not get asked out then. If she takes some incentive, she deserves some results.

      • Bongstar420

        Well sure. You must act as though you’d have the same interaction if she was ugly…you know, like you want to have sex with her personality which is probably not special

      • Bongstar420

        No there is not a 50/50 chance.

        Its far more like 10/90 where 10 is the win.

        For dudes at the 5 mark or below, its gonna be 5/150

        Now women 5 or below can still get pump and dumps easier than a 6-7 male

      • Bongstar420

        Nope. You still have to ask 10 women if they want sex straight up just to get a maybe.

        Everything about the hook up scene is predicated by the presumed ability to date and marry according to the monogamy program everyone is supposed to think they want.

      • yo yo

        So you will call me a whimp as I’m over approaching women because of rejection. Men are not robots that don’t get affected by rejection. We have feelings just like yourself. It 50/50 in my eyes. How would you feel if you were rejected 50 times in a year. I bet a lower self confidence, bit of sadness maybe a little depression of loneliness, unwanted. Whimp c’mon we are not animals we a humans with intellect, emotions etc.

        How about you woman get off your asses and help out instead of being a lazy bitch that waits for her prince to come through the door to kiss her feet and save her from the evil wizard.

        This is stupid — to be the pursuer–one of the natural, biological roles as a man. They also want women to act like a woman, yet in the same breath expect us to be the pursuer… That is in the animal world don’t use this for you woman pursuer excuses. Think like a human not like an animal. That is all rubbish is re-evaluate you human values. Because that was a ridiculous statement…

        Ying & yang ladies!!! men don’t exist just for all you woman.. And Vise versa. 50/50 NOT 10(women / 90(men)

      • Bongstar420

        Man up as they would say. It benefits women mostly though

        chaching

      • Bongstar420

        We don’t live in a hostile environment anymore. Proving you will sacrifice yourself for the vag is antithetical now. Also, over population is a real problem now.

      • Ganae Vigil

        This is very true!

      • yo yo

        It’s not about being scared. Men are sick off women always expecting men to come to their feet. It should be 50/50 NOT 10/90. Don’t play evolution excuse we are not animals we are humans with interlectual capabilies.

      • John Galvin

        My wife approached me yrs ago She was from Alaska living in NY knew less than a hand full of people

      • Bongstar420

        She felt she had no alternative. Had she had an established social network, it may very well have been different.

        Women need to experience the cock scarcity the same way that men (90%) have been experiencing the vag scarcity. 10% of guys have more snatch then they know what to do with.

      • Bongstar420

        They will approach.

        Its super annoying they can’t tell I don’t want to talk to them though. For some reason they think I would just because they look nice. Also, they assume they are qualified to talk to me

  • John

    There is a saying, ” No money no honey”, is just as ugly as a man wanting only sex from a woman and not their heart.

    • Bongstar420

      No its not. Women are lucky we don’t demand substance in exchange for sex. They are also lucky we don’t demand all they skills they do.

      Whats ugly is that women force men to pay for sex by demanding things that have nothing to do with sex.

  • Debbie Nugus

    I have always given anyone, regardless of gender a wide berth if they seem to play the ‘silence power game’ or passive aggressive game. Women can do this too though and its not always about sexual power.

    • Mallory

      What?

  • tygrr94

    If a man came up to me and/or my friends and said “how y’all hoes doing”, I’d look him in the face and say “Who are you calling a hoe?”, then walk away and never, EVER interact with him again. That is rude, disrespectful, and the women who allow it, deserve it.

    • Bongstar420

      I’d consider refusing to have sex with a guy because he didn’t pay for the dates to be prostitution.

  • dinna

    lol, I guess your friend was disrespectful if he really thought girls were hoes. but he said it in a way , I would think that is really funny and start laughing b/c who comes up to a girl and says “how yall hoes doing”? on the othe hand if you say how are you ladies doing? that’s trying too hard. I dont say that you put women on a pedestal but act like you are their friend and be cool with it. I am a girl and I do like the way your friend approached those girls. I would preceive him has funny and that intantly makes someone attracted. Now wether or not he is disrespectufl I would n’t know b/c I dont know him in just one meeting.

    • Mallory

      Any woman that finds something appealing by being called a hoe–whether said in good nature or not–has some serious work to do on her self esteem.

      • Glorious Johnson

        Cosign!

  • Sophia Anne Wise

    Let’s get real. If a woman IS NOT PHYSICALLY attracted to you, meaning she doesn’t think you’re fine as heck, SHE AIN’T sleeping with you.
    Most good looking women like GOOD LOOKING MEN!!!

    You can lie to yourself all you want, but we want more than CONFIDENCE. You can be as confident as all get out, but if you’re not what that individual woman considers attractive to HER, you’ll be sleeping alone.

    Women are not like men. We won’t get with just any guy because we’re lonely and desperate. He still has to be our type in EVERY WAY. Looks are just as important as personality and we prefer BOTH, not just one or the other.
    Not trying to be mean, just honest.

    • Ashley

      So true! There are several men who I can talk and laugh with and get along with well, while at the same time, not be physically attracted to them at all. No chemistry=No lovin’!!! 🙂

      • Bongstar420

        They probably feel the same but would still have orgasms with you anyways if they thought you could be responsible with it.

        Its a shame how much more charitable men are with sex vs women and yet women think their sexual greed is a virtue- it make the world be a crappier place by increasing the amount of sexually frustrated men in the population.

    • noiseboy25

      Rubbish! There is someone out there for everyone, looks are not so important, its what in side of you that counts! :/

      • Mallory

        You missed the OP ‘s point. They’re right actually, I won’t speak for all women but from my personal standpoint and that of other women I know, we decide who we want to be with based upon our physical attraction to them and our chemistry level with a man.

        I’m in college and there are two guys that I found myself attracted to. One’s attractive level was on a GQ model scale, while the other looked more like Kid from Kid N Play. The one who resembled Kid to me had dimples and the most charming personality. He was funny, unassuming yet if he CHOSE for you to see it, he was very dominant and manly. Needless to say I fell head over heels for this guy, he put on a few lbs and he was still the sexiest man alive to me. If he lost all his hair one day, I’d still be wildly attracted to him. Meanwhile the guy who looked like he stepped out of a GQ magazine–as fit as a soccer star and as gorgeous as a movie star–fell flat to me. He was a sweet, kind natured guy, incredibly respectful but he was very shy and quiet. I can understand quietness and being shy but some personality has to shine through in order to make you a keeper for me. Had I chose to be with this guy, I realized I would of done so soley based on his looks and well that wouldn’t have gotten us very far.

        This other guy, well let’s just say because of him NO ONE will ever be able to down play Kid’s level of attractiveness to me. Hahaha

      • Bongstar420

        Well then, your spiels about “relationships” are just a diversion.

        Guys need to learn, if you don’t put out easy, she doesn’t think he is attractive enough and has raised the price he must pay for access to vag.

      • Bongstar420

        Sure, if you want a “relationship” without much sex with all the costs

  • Ashley

    Seriously, the articles on this site are so well written. I’m obsessed! And I’ve dealt with men like this. I usually ignore them and if it’s a situation where I have to see them again (school, work, etc.), they usually come around on their own.

    • Bongstar420

      You ignore guys that ignore you?

      Thats the way it should be

  • alex

    I accadintaly ignored a girl today but she noticed me and we have our cool conversations … I barly noticed her till she walked off the court.should I text her and tell her :hey how was workout, I’m sorry I didn’t say hi I didn’t regonise you til you left? Or any advise on wat I should say?

    • I wouldn’t apologize or mention the accidental ignoring tbh. Just hit her up and talk to her if you’re thinking about her. She can put 2 and 2 together.

      • Bongstar420

        Right…but do not tell her the truth that you are only talking to her because she is hot looking. Tell her how cool you think she is and compliment something about her which indicates you think she has high status.

    • Glorious Johnson

      1st learn to spell! I’m not attempting to disrespect, reduce, demean, or the like. Some women, such as myself may want to be read to, especially some poetry. Just some food for thought!

      • Bongstar420

        Um…its about proving status. Not your desire for poetry. Stop the deceit already.

        Its just like he has to have a car or have his own place just for you to consider him.

    • Bongstar420

      If you want sex, you should be talking about that. Is it really about the workout- no.Oh, wait, she can’t accept reality and requires you to act as though aren’t talking to her because you want to stick your penis in some hot vag.

  • Silv

    What if the girl u like always gets felt up by her & ur boss & she always find time to stare at u making u even more irritated than u already R knowing that shits annoying and clearly improfessional but she never says stop but wants me to talk to her she can go **** off

    • Bongstar420

      You can be an animal and have orgasms with her…or you can be principled and get her fired.

      She can pick up strangers off the street if she wants kinky action

  • RozeGold

    I’ve done my share of fronting, & it always backfired! Lol. Although it created a smoldering tension, his ego couldn’t go for it. Not everyone is into the games. I certainly wasn’t when he started fronting on me. He always made it known that he wasn’t going to sweat me. He always thought I expected him to (Which I did)& went the long route to prove me wrong. I wasn’t stuck up. I just wanted him to be crazy about me like all the other males in my life. Years later he confessed he was in love with me, but I can’t really believe it because he was really mean at times. I still wonder if I’d never fronted, where would we be…

    • Beauty_Is_Me

      If a guy is mean for no reason towards you, he thinks you’re really hot. Men love to go this route, especially, if they’ve been turned down lots by pretty women.

      • Bongstar420

        No. They do it because women don’t like having sex with good decent men. They like using sex to manipulate good decent men..Erhem, “nice guys”

    • Bongstar420

      Awwwww. You didn’t get the worship you wanted.

      Did you worship him?

      Its highly unlikely it would turn out to be you fantasy of lifetime monogamy

  • ahmed

    i will go for ignoring them because rejection is sucks and believe me most beautiful women really enjoys rejecting men actually they feel more desired. they won’t give a fuck about your feelings they will make it a tough rejection because they see you pathetic ….. even if she likes you she must reject you first to show you that she is not an easy girl pla pla pla … some other times a pretty girl maybe interested in you sometimes just a little bit but if you try to get closer to her you become nothing you are just like all those (pathetic) people who can’t resist her magic pla pla pla … i know that ignoring beautiful girls probably won’t get me one but at least i will never ever be rejected

    • Ganae Vigil

      I hate rejecting men, it makes me feel horrible. Not all women get off on making others feel bad.

    • Beauty_Is_Me

      Pretty women love rejecting men????? Have you ever approached an average or ugly chick? THEY LOVE REJECTING MEN! Since they have a chip on their shoulder. Pretty women don’t enjoy rejecting. Trust me. We just hate it when a guy we’re not attracted to hits on us. We hate the whole rejecting process. We rather be left alone.

      • ryhan

        true dat

      • Bongstar420

        Which is why I solicit ugly women for sex and demand a high IQ just to talk if no sex is involved

    • ryhan

      uh uh ohhh really that doesn’t work at all get real only carword guys do that!!!!!

      • Bongstar420

        Carword. LOL. I bet the ladies love your attention.

  • Ganae Vigil

    This article is spot on! It’s obvious when men play games/jerk and is a huge turnoff! People always wonder why pretty girls are with unattractive or nerdy guys; its because they treat us with kindness and respect. Some women do love bad boys, but find out before you act like one because I know the men that have tried this with me, I ignore. No one with self respect likes being treated like crap.

    • yo yo

      Thank goodness. There is hope. The genuine, nice caring self respectful males and females are compatible.

      While the game playing asshole/bitch low self esteem male & females are compatible.

      Don’t forget attractive people can be kind caring and genuine too. I think we can judge a rotten apple during the first encounter to be genuine or fake. I sure can, thats why I ignore the girls that come across thinking she’s hot etc. I don’t give them the satisfaction. Neither should anyone else, it seems low confidence men like to give “Hot girls” (make up induced) attention/satisfaction

      • Bongstar420

        No. They want pu$$y

  • yo yo

    Biggest turn off is being with a group of people whilst the pretty girl gets the attention and feeds off it. I ignore her as she isn’t good enough for me. Pretty girls are great with make up but in the morning be prepared for a shock!! Been there done that. Today I don’t give the pretty girls the satisfaction. They don’t deserve it. The genuine down to earth woman get my 100% respect

    Woman that know (think they know) they are hot…. Is the biggest God damn turn off trust me, be humble you might get a decent guy not an asshole/bad boy dickhead & have as much drama as you want. Woman love drama. Fuck that..

    • Beauty_Is_Me

      Are you a guy or a girl? Since when do men care about facial features? A pretty girl to men is decent face = hot body. Who cares about makeup. Anyways, if a chick is ugly without makeup, she was never “pretty”. Attractive, yes. Pretty, no!

      • ryhan

        true DAT!!

      • yo yo

        The woman that is down to earth and pretty gets my vote. If there is a woman that thinks she’s all that and a bitch she gets my back hand….

      • Cougar Age

        A down to earth woman will have nothing to do with a man that talks about backhanding a bitch…

      • yo yo

        Treat those the way they want to be treated. Down to earth woman deserves respect. The bitchy self entitled woman deserves no respect I.e. Love & care. The back hand thing was only a joke. Calm down

      • Bongstar420

        How about not giving any attetion to women that won’t have sex with you. If you do, its friendzone with no chance of a change.

      • Bongstar420

        I don’t know why anyone would talk to anyone who uses violence to get what they want out of life. Well I do, but you won’t like the answer.

      • yo yo

        I’m a man that is obvious cmon

    • ryhan

      agggghhhh if u have a biase on pretty bebs that’s your problem and deal with it!!!!!!!!!

      • CreatWrite111

        Hahahaha true true.. agree 100 percent.. with looks, you must also have humbleness. other wise you will only attract the wrong type of guys..
        And although, i am a girl.. tyes majority of girls like drama.. if they want they can get drama out of a real normal thing.. Sad reality.. :/

      • yo yo

        Well those majority of girls are mostly clueless & are a complete waste of time.

      • Bongstar420

        Women are only a waste of time if you want to actually be deep instead of fake deep

      • yo yo

        What the fuck u on about Ya spinner

      • yo yo

        Down to earth pretty girls are rare although they are worth waiting for and they’re the ones that don’t get ignored. Bitchy pretty girls get ignored. A real man don’t waste time on those types…only desperate men.

      • Bongstar420

        Any decent looking female has got access to multiple cocks on call just about any time….lets say any female +6

        now for guys, to get the same play, you got to be a +8 and on statistical basis you will do more than her but much less then other men.

    • Someone

      So, you’re saying you ignore her, because she’s pretty, doesn’t matter what is she talking about… Maybe it could be something interesting…
      I hate being ignored and if I see I am ignored on purpose, I ignore that person as well. Not that I’m attention seeking or consider myself so hot. But decency is really underestimated thing when it comes to attracting the right person in life.

      • yo yo

        I’ll be specific sorry…. Pretty woman with no personality and look as though she isn’t impressed, entitled I ignore. Desperate guys will pursue though… Pretty women that is down to earth, smiling, easy to talk to & seems to want to get to know others I’ll give my full attention too. 🙂

      • Bongstar420

        If its interesting..sure talk.
        Ignore her sexually till she begs for it.

        To bad men can’t play that game. Relationships might be cooler.

        Though I suspect when women say “relationship,” its not what men think it is. I have difficulty classifying it as a real relationship though since ultimately her desires are similar to men. Looks come first unless she is emotionally needy

    • Bongstar420

      Hey…the makeup is for them.

      I prefer the morning look…with wet panties

  • Lois

    I don’t understand this man who appears to give me all the signs he likes me, and suddendly tells me he likes other woman (I happen to know). Does he want to distract me because he is nervous or insecure? Is that a “tactic”?

    • ryhan

      Lois thats how guys are,they do what ever it takes to make sure that you fall for them then after fall,they pretend to like some one else and the best way to over come that is pretending that you don’t mind that would hurt him the more so will have nothing to do apart from coming back to you

      • Bongstar420

        Why play emotional games? Is that what a good relationship is founded on?

    • Bongstar420

      Tell him you are good at deep throating.

  • Beauty_Is_Me

    Not all women are attracted to assholes. Ignoring a woman you’re attracted to is a nice way to push her away. Only needy chicks will deal with this kind of behavior. Also, I’ve noticed mostly white and asian men play the ignore game. Other races have no problem being blunt about their attraction.

    • Bongstar420

      Woa…ignoring people should mean you don’t want to talk to them

      Thats what it means when I do it…its pretty arrogant for a woman to think I’d want to talk to her because she is good looking..unless we were going to talk about how good looking she was. Otherwise, why would you initiate conversation with random people if you weren’t an extrovert and doing it with actual random people?

  • Dev Brown804

    The club isn’t the best place to meet women if you’re talking relationships. Half of them will get super glammed up and go to the club only to ignore guys and have Fashion showdowns with other women they see in the club. Honestly, it seems like Online is the best way to go about meeting females. Unless you come across a catfish. Lol

    • Bongstar420

      Its just too bad a 5 dude can’t just propose a bang session to a 5 chick and actually succeed. I’m sure an 8 dude could pull it with a 5 chick though. It works for me. Easy peesy though I still have to let them think what they want.

  • 🌹Figure8🌹

    As a “pretty girl” I assume that if a guy is ignoring me – it’s because he doesn’t like me – and therefore I make every effort to stay away.
    Just like men, pretty girls hate rejection and since we rarely have a lot or any experience with rejection – any signs indicating we might be rejected are met with absolute avoidance. Lol 😂

    • ryhan

      your right I would also do the same but then I have a feeling that such guys just want to see what you would do in case they ignore you

      • Bongstar420

        Really. We ignore hot women because we want to see what they would do?

        Nope. We do it because its not worth even giving them attention. We can get on the net if we want to look at them. At least then, its only a digit on screen which provides her with little satisfaction. Its having dudes in public chasing her around which makes her feel like a queen.

  • cowboy

    no some pretty girls do get rejected–don’t be so cocky thinking pretty girls don’t get rejected–I reject plenty of pretty girls–just cause a girls pretty don’t mean id wanna go out with her-lmao most guys wont talk like this–but I see a lot of pretty girls –don’t mean I wanna go out with them–I mean really –so we don’t really care of you meet it with absolute avoidance or not–us guys could care less–sides that its the pretty girls loss not ours or mine–end of story

    • Bongstar420

      Why would you? They expect extra compensation for access to their holes. Plus, you will have plenty of others willing to pay up what ever she demands including feeding what ever fantasy she wants no matter how asinine.

  • T

    Duuude! You sooooo hit the nail on the head, this shiznot happens to me all the time when I make eye contact with the dude I am attracted to at coffee shops , etc… I always could never figure it out until now because I get a lot of attention from everyone else where ever I am. For a while, I started to doubt myself and could not figure it out, until I realized it kept happening with dudes who were going out of their way to sit near me. When I look over for a sec and over two, they would either make no eye contact what so ever or try notvto , try to keep their eyes glued to their phones and laugh/have a permanent grin attached as they stared at their phone,. With occasionally looking over, almost so quickly I wouldn’t catch it. One time I even got cocktail blocked by another dude , who was interested and the eye contact/smiling was meant for the dude behind him who did the same phone/smile/laughing/ refused to make eye contact every time I looked over, but catch him here and there. WTF?! How do I make it happen with these dudes… it’s annoying.

    • T

      *cockblocked , not cocktailed

    • Bongstar420

      If you’re gay, just ask them what they are interested in. If they don’t say something related to sex, ask them if they are serious and put some innuendo in there already.

      They are dudes…highly unlikely to be catty attention seekers

  • maj

    Hello, I met this guy “K” 3 weeks ago at a bar, I
    was with my girl and he was with friends , his friend approach my friend and
    invited us to play pool so we did and we enjoyed the night and they dropped us
    home , the friend took my friend’s number and the next day they invite us to
    dinner and ask us to choose the restaurant so we chose the most expensive one
    because we didn’t really care about the guys.

    That night was superb we had a lot of fun and “K” spent
    the whole night talking to me “politics, travels…..” we had diner and we went to the same bar where
    we first met and got a bit drunk then they took us to the beach to look at the
    sky and the waves, it was so romantic then “k” tried to kiss me so after
    so many attempts I finally let him because I was a bit tipsy and he was so fun,
    they dropped us home again.

    Next day K calls and we meet again the whole group in the
    afternoon and they take us to a shooting range and play archery and diner and
    to a bar………we kissed again and dropped us home.

    We were a big group 3 girls and 4 guys so we decided to
    create a group chat on Whatsapp and we planned to go for late lunch/early diner
    at this good restaurant. One of K’s friends come to pick us up and took us to
    the restaurant we had diner and K got a bit drunk and he was like you re the
    most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and he was saying how I keep on ignoring him
    and that he wants to go to gym to be worthy of me and blablabla…. We then go to
    the our bar and they had Ferraris and Lamborghinis with them we had a few
    drinks and then we decided to go continue the rest of the night at K’s place,
    we arrive at his villa and we listen to some music then some of our friends
    fell asleep so he asks me to join him upstairs I did and I was so scared lol
    but then he gives me his pajama and we kiss and go to sleep.

    We wake up at 10 and he had an official invite from the
    crown prince of the city but at the last minute he decided that he will drop us
    and we change clothing and take us for late lunch (ooh lucky me )

    I went but I kept on ignoring him because I was Pmsing and
    hangover and not in the mood for small talk and he noticed after he got drunk
    he was telling his friends how every time he looks at me I turn my back on him
    (sorry) we then go to drink in this bar nearby but this time he was ignoring me
    as well, he was talking business with his friends and I was talking and joking
    with the others. he comes to me from time to time and kisses me on the forehead
    and says good things about me to his friends, how I have a big heart and how he
    doesn’t only like my looks then they wanted to go our favorite bar but I was so
    tired and my girls as well we decided to go home, he asks his friends to drop
    us and he kisses me goodbye.

    Next day his friend calls me and invite us (the girls) to
    the same bar again. We joined them there and I see K drunk a bit and we play
    pool and dance and talk bullshit (how he likes me a lot and he doesn’t want to
    fall in love because he sees it as a weakness and that he has been hurt before
    and he knows I am so pretty and he wants to know why I am with him …..) then we
    go after party at his place he gives me pajama again and We go to sleep.

    Next day my girl and I were in a hurry and he wouldn’t wake
    up so his friend drops us home but after that all goes to hell.

    He doesn’t call for 2 days, he barely replies to texts and I
    was so upset with him I went out with my girls got tipsy and decided to call him,
    he was nice and happy to hear my voice and said he would join me and I got all excited
    but he didn’t show up so I decided under the influence of alcohol to text him
    that we’re over, he reads the message with no reply and next morning he says
    what was that. I tried to cool things down and asked him to understand but then
    again no more answer.

    I had a good relationship with his friends and one of them
    was like hey let’s go out tonight… I agreed.

    The guy picks me up and take me to diner I soon realized it
    was a date and I tried to show him that we’re only friends , we had a nice meal
    and went to the bar and played pool and danced and made him drunk and he was
    confessing all of his secrets to me. To be honest the only reason I agreed to
    go out with was because I thought K was going to be there and I just couldn’t
    believe that he was making all these plans with me and then started to ignore
    me out of nowhere.

    I had a good night with his friend but me being a loyal
    freak I sent K a message saying that I am out with his friend as friends (no
    reply) .

    Next day his friend invited me out again but I tell him I
    really like K and let’s all go out as a group again.

    I go with my girl and I see him sitting in the bar I get the
    chills he come to me and says hi I played it cool and said hi back then went dancing
    with my friends.

    He then comes to me and says that he really liked me but I
    was being dramatic and acting like we’re engaged I told him I was only that way
    because he’s the one who started acting like a protective boyfriend first and
    then says let’s be good friends we will enjoy our time together ….. I agreed.

    Although I agreed I did my best to make him jealous and so
    he was, he kept on pushing the guys from me and telling them I was his
    girlfriend and they should stay away from me (lol), My friends told me that I
    should stop being a bitch to him and I finally agreed and we had a long
    conversation and he promised he would call and text and begged me to support
    him and be there for him this week because he has important project coming up
    then we went to eat something and we seemed like the perfect couple then he
    took me to his place and we made love.

    Next morning he told me that he really enjoyed the night and
    it was one of the best nights he ever had and cooked breakfast for me and we
    decided to go to the desert to do some activities, we met up with our friends
    and we had a great time there then he dropped us to change our clothes to go
    out again.

    I changed and we went to the bar, he was all over me, I was
    talking to one of his friends he got all jealous and told him not to talk to
    his girlfriend and then later he asked me to go to his place, II told him I can’t
    but he insisted and kept begging so I agreed, on the way their he told me he
    likes way more because I am coming with him and that he would die for me blabla….We
    arrive he gives me a pajama and we sleep into each other’s arms.

    Next morning he was sleeping and I was bored and so I asked
    his friend to come get me and he did and then we left and had some food and K
    was still sleeping so his friend took me home and now it’s been 2 days and K
    still didn’t call just 2 texts from him .

    I don’t understand this guy when I am with him it’s all
    about me he even calls me mama (weird I know) but when I am not it’s like I don’t
    exist what should I do ? What does it mean? Why is he ignoring me even thought
    I am 100% positive that he like me?

    • yo yo

      He is ignoring you because he thinks he is wasting his time… Guys are not game players. You want to make someone jelous? You are playing a cruel game and tbh its revolting.

      Try be a genuine person not a game player. You going out with his friend while he likes you!?! What the fuck are you doing? Women like this make me sick!

      • Bongstar420

        Women obviously don’t want relationships. What dummy thinks that’s how you develop healthy relationships?

    • Bongstar420

      Wow…at least a prostitute puts out after a dude pays up.

  • Linda

    Hey i met this guy a while ago. I was in a relationship at the time and I made it clear however I wanted this new guy as I felt my relationship has ran it’s course.. I never slept with this new guy but I wanted too.. we stopped talking after while which I felt was because he didn’t know what was going on and didn’t wanna be waiting around which is fair. But now I’m not in my relationship anymore I want him. But he just ingnores Me maybe he is not interested anymore.. but I still want to make a move with him

    • Bongstar420

      Stay single…derp

      Do you like it when a dude dumps you when some hotter punnay comes around?

      Finally, you don’t have to be monogamous. New dude is unlikely to be “relationship” material…..and your opinion of that is hardly relevant when compared to the data- women are always doing things like this, and they rarely turn out as they had imagined.

    • Justin Hughes

      because you are fat and ugly

  • shy girl

    Hi , I m yr 10 this year. I love a guy, philip.
    We were really good friends , he sometimes teased me and complained about me such as I m muslim and I changed my scarf ( hijab) . And he said that its nice on me etc. Overall everything was okay until I told him that I love him. We were still talkinh but as comfortable as before . But i did huggeee mmistake that I think I mesg him too much and made him little bit push away from me.. and then he started to ignore me.. then I opoligeise about the mesg. But he just said its okay, and run.. I usually see him around school. I can’t stop myself looking at his eyes. He sometimes do too. But usually ignore me. Anfd I dont know what I hv to do. yesterday I decided to ask him he love me or not but then I was toooooo embressed and change my mind. What I hv to do now ??????? Help me plz !!!

    • Crystal

      Don’t ask him if he loves you. Ignore him back. He’ll become interested, again. He will wonder why you’re not chasing him. He wants to take things slow. Just be friends. Don’t mention your feelings, again. You scared him away, because men don’t like to look at their feelings, as much as we do, because they’re not taught to be emotional… or look at their feelings… or express their feelings.

      • Bongstar420

        If that were true, then he would be a lame dude.

        Playing games for ego satisfaction

  • Bongstar420

    Oh gawd. The hotter the female, the more she expects from you.

    Who cares if she thinks you’re ignoring her because you’re an “herb” what ever that means.

    Women need to be doing the work in the dating game. It would be a whole lot more efficient. Cheap and dudes aren’t going to get confused about sexual attraction and emotional neediness. The women won’t be bothered by dudes they don’t like- that would be the man’s problem…and guess what ladies, getting laid will still be super easy and “relationships” that are sexually gratifying will still be difficult to obtain. Finally, ladies are more likely to get honesty, well that is if most women can stop demanding more and more just to have sex with a guy.

  • Starlight

    Thank you Greg! Nice to know there is a man out here encouraging decent, clear and positive behavior. I hope men will listen. Was dating one who did all these confusing, hurtful things but when he was more engaged, clear, natural and complimentary, it sent my heart to the moon. Just makes life a lot sweeter and easier. It feels terrible when someone is preemptively, mysteriously defensive with you just because they have a script running in their heads that says “she’s too pretty” or whatever. I’m just a person too who wants to be loved and cared for like anyone else.

  • HiMyNameIsBrad

    While I understand the guy trying to play game by being passive aggressive not working. How does a guy treat a girl who is passive aggressive? That shit is annoying and I ignore her not to play game but basically I don’t want to play her game. Or at least I don’t know how to respond to her game.

  • Justin Hughes

    this is bullshit. be yourself. people like you for who you are. you cant date every pretty girl you meet. and that chick in the picture looks like ronda rousey helllll nah i might as well hang myself

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