In a man’s perception of the dating game, a woman can walk outside, trip, fall and land on some penis (slang translation: there are so many men desperate for women that no effort is needed by a woman to get a man). While this is crass in it’s explanation, It truthfully reveals how we think when it comes to a woman dating. Part of the reason is because we know how desperate our fellow men are and because of that we assume that women have little effort to make in order to gain a mate. It doesn’t help also when you see women turn down friends of yours (that you know are good men) only to see them lament later on about having been dogged out by someone else.
The problem with this assumption however it is that women are picky about their mates while man are usually quantity over quality. Give a woman 100 guys and she will turn down 99 of them in order to choose the one who fits her idea of an exciting, handsome and rewarding man. Give a man 100 women and he will ask for 20 days so that he can bang 5 of them per day and tell you on the 21st day which one it is that he would rather keep around to spend more time with. So given my example you can understand why a man would not pity the woman for turning down 99 of those guys in lieu of one because in that man’s mind she had 100 choices and screwed over 99 of them in order to be with the one duck who she now regrets.
Men know that our desperate brothers will get with anything as long as the drought has been a long one, so knowing that, how can we feel sorry for a woman that has been by herself for a length of time? In our minds it’s like “why are you turning down guys then if you’re lonely?” because we assume that your door is getting beaten down by the desperate man every day. Our perception is skewed in this manner and most guys assume that lonely women are the product of their discriminatory taste!
So the next time you read an article or watch a panel that has an attractive woman going on about her chronic singlehood, I hope this article sheds some light on why the male commentary is rarely if ever supportive.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.