A man’s perception of the dating game is this: Any woman can walk outside, trip, fall and land on a penis (slang translation: there are so many men desperate for women that no effort is needed by a woman to get a man).
While this is crass, It does truthfully reveal how we think when it comes to women and dating. Part of the reason is because we see so many desperate “good” men settling on low value women. We’ve also seen women turn down men in our lives (that we know are good men) then complain about a lack of good men to date.
The problem with our assuming that women can have whatever they want is that it is a male’s perspective. Women in reality tend to be picky about their mates while men are quantity over quality. Give a woman a hundred guys and she will turn down ninety-nine of them, choosing the one who fits her idea of an exciting and rewarding man. Give a man a hundred women and he will ask for twenty days so that he can sleep with five each day.
Given my example, you can understand why a man would not pity a woman for turning down ninety-nine of those guys. We men know that our desperate brothers will get with anything as long as there’s a drought. We project this logic onto the lonely woman. In our minds we think, “Why are you turning down guys, if you’re lonely?”
Many of us assume that if a woman is attractive, she is being hounded by desperate men, every day. Most guys assume that lonely women are the product of their own discriminatory taste!
So the next time you read an article or watch a panel that has an attractive woman going on about her chronic singledom, I hope this article sheds some light on why the male commentary is rarely if ever supportive.
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