When a man is in his late teens and a bit beyond the world seems like a vast landscape of opportunity – especially when it comes to sex. A young man’s dream is to bag so many different flavors of women that by the time he is 40/50 years old he can say that he’s done it all with no regrets along the way. Most young men don’t even think this deep but the hormones are ablaze and the scent of a woman is intoxicating.
As we mature and the reality of the world sets in most men evolve. We become a bit more cynical, tired of games, rejection over what we view as trifles and the chase begins to feel childish. Some men grow to be blunter while the richer, more successful are opened to a new world where women have begun to actually chase them…
Older men don’t waste their time anymore
Unlike the younger man an older gentleman will see the forest instead of the trees on a first date. A woman who seems like a lot of work, fickle, or a train wreck will not be chased down like before, she instead will be forgotten. It is in this that a young man can learn from an older man in the art of gaming women… it’s almost never worth it to try that hard.
Successful older gentlemen have also had a lifetime of business education that has spilled over into their love life. Now the romanticized notion of “gaming women” has been replaced with words like assets, liabilities and ROI (Return on Investment). Who wants to put the heavy investment of time and money into a person who will only yield excuses and lies to blow you off?
Hormones also come into play for men of a certain age and the need to “hit them all” becomes greatly diminished. Many older men are ready to settle down, and the idea of an expensive game of tag for sex with a woman is just nowhere near appealing.
A Change in Priorities
Older men tend to feel women out more for conversation than how sexy they look in the dress they wore. Looks are very important but so is someone who can hold an intelligent conversation or blend in well with the wives and girlfriends of peers.
If sex was the only reason these men were dating then with success comes money and as we all know sex is as easy to purchase as a loaf of bread. Older men who actively date are seeking companionship.
An older, successful man will also mislead a hot young woman due to the very facts listed in the former paragraphs. He may wine her, dine her, and talk to her about the news, but her inability to keep up, or her obvious naivete will lead to him to not call her back for a second date.
This is why we talk about the game flipping upon itself and caution younger men to slow down. If you realize how much age, wealth, and wisdom factor into the art of seduction, you would understand why chasing women is rarely a worthwhile game to play.Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.