As if his initial book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” was not bad enough, Steve Harvey is writing yet another book on relationships. The worst part about this is when you go to Amazon.com the book has a four star rating, people are actually hood winked into thinking his advice is something new. The man is basically peddling common sense information (that should be followed by either gender) as if he’s hitting on some unknown deep topic. All of the information Harvey is spewing is freely available on the internet at any of a dozen websites, and there are countless web forums where experts will answer your relationship questions for free.
The quotes from Harvey about his new book are hilarious:
“I go so deep into the mindset of men, and how we operate and function, and I give women real things that they can do, to help in their relationship,” – Harvey telling BlackVoices.com.
“You know, look man, men are not bad people. But women think we’re bad because they don’t get us at all. We’re very, very simple. We all think alike. We all basically think alike when it comes down to commitment, love, relationships, money, sex, whatever it is. We all about basically think the same.”
What? Steve Harvey goes “deep into the mindset of men”? This is what happens when you let someone who doesn’t know what they are talking about have a platform to continue to spew their nonsense. Here is an excerpt of a review from a woman talking about Harvey’s first book:
“Mr. Harvey also explores all those myths about men and how supposedly “complicated” they are, when in fact, they really are quite simple when compared to us women. Finally, Mr. Harvey tells us the truth about men and their words by translating their many different lines and actions into what they REALLY mean; so that the woman who is plagued by wishful thinking snaps out of it and smells the coffee.” – Ms. Marisa Siervo
Let me break this down, Ms. Siervo now thinks that all men are “simple” and she was thinking to hard about what men’s actions were before. This brings up two points, if men are so “simple” and all think the same then why is there a need for a second book? How deep is he going to go if men are such simplistic beings that all think alike? The other point is that men can read too, and one thing women do not understand is that men always adapt to the changes in the dating world.
What Harvey does not tell you is that he is talking about men who are not ready for a relationship (which is not all men), and he neglects to tell you that he (like most men) know that women won’t follow the advice he writes. So after all your new found information from reading the first book fails, he knows you will buy the second book because he gives you things you can do to help your relationship. He does this because he knows most women who are seeking advice will follow it for a short period of time and revert back to what they were doing before. Then when they are in a hopeless situation looking for more advice his second book is there to go even deeper to REALLY help them this time.
Listen, when taking advice from someone, the first thing you should do is look at their credentials. Harvey is on his 3rd marriage. THIRD. He’s already been divorced twice. If anything, he should be writing a book for men on the mistakes HE made in his previous relationships instead of a book for women. Why? It’s simple; Steve Harvey can only give advice to women about men who are like him. He exposes his lack of knowledge on this by saying “[All men] basically think the same.” This is a generalized statement that has no basis in fact, very few people in general think the same. On the contrary to Harvey’s assertions after discussing relationships with 40 men, it was only found that about 5 – 10 of them had 70% of their views considered similar
Steve Harvey writes his books as though all men are on a relentless hunt for a woman’s “cookie” (Sex) like Tom used to chase Jerry. Not every man is out to deceive, trick, use and abuse women. Not every man who is given the opportunity to do one of those things will do it. Harvey’s “90 Day Plan” basically has women starting off their relationship with a man in a zone of distrust out of fear that if she gives too much too soon, the man won’t respect her. So you’re going to build a lasting committed relationship off of the fear of distrust right off the top? Then you expect it to work out? Good Luck with that.
Listening to Steve Harvey’s morning show, you often hear the letters some people write for advice, and the response he gives them. Truth is, most of those people are idiots. About a good 75% of them are dealing with a cheating spouse or are sleeping with someone who is married. To these people, yes, maybe Harvey’s simplistic advice makes sense because, well, they’re morons. The truth is most people know everything Harvey is putting in his book. We know we shouldn’t mess with someone who is cheating. We know if we aren’t happy in a relationship then we should leave. We know sleeping with someone who is married isn’t going to end well. We don’t need a book to tell us that. The key is finally doing what we already know we need to do. And no book written by a person who has failed in two previous relationships is going to help you do that.Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.