Sep 06


There is an enormous difference between defending a woman and white knighting. When a person (male or female) is being bullied, or taken advantage of a good guy will speak up or step up to defend them in one way or another – this is not white knighting. When a woman is online arguing against or about men in any form, the male who champions her cause (no matter how flawed it is), has no romantic connection to her, and is doing so to appear different from other males, that man is a white knight.

White knights are seen as “male feminists” most times but this is not entirely fair to male feminists. Feminist rules change based on who you talk to and some self-identified male feminists are not out to cut our balls off in lieu of defending some angry chick spazzing out on her Facebook timeline. White knights come in all shapes and sizes, but their goals are all the same – IMPRESS WOMEN AT ALL COSTS.

Let’s observe some real commentary made by white knights on social media :

  • If I was your boyfriend, I would have punched him after the first time. Don’t allow men to be assholes and not respect women.
  • Sorry that you have to go through this.
  • Ask any girl that knows me and I will be the first to lay a jacket down or throw a punch for them!

Here are a few facts about White Knights – regular men hate them, they hate themselves, and women only tolerate them to further the particular argument that they’re white knighting. The white knight believes that by nature ALL women are victims or potential victims of men, and that they (the white knight) have been given the charge of disowning their manhood in order to defend these victims from other men. Sounds a bit sad and scary doesn’t it?

The biggest part of the hate is the general lack of trust you can have in a person who operates from a place of white knighting. To a woman, the knight appears as if he would never stand up to her – no self-confident woman wants a door mat for a man. To men the White Knight is a joke, sure he pisses you off when he goes in with personal attacks when you call out his muse but at the end of the day he seems like a powerless, barking Chihuahua living in that woman’s purse

So Why Are So Many Men White Knighting?

Lack of experience with women turns men into white knights. The assumption of women being powerless victims and that championing feminist doctrine will impress girls all come from the same place where men wonder what they did wrong to not get the girl. A white knight is the “nice guy” who doesn’t get the attention he wants because he offers no challenge to women. He sees the guys that women really like as “bad boys”, “douchebags”, and “bros”, he’s not like them and he must protect the women from them because… well women are victims.

Sounds a bit condescending to women doesn’t it? This is why I know that white knights are used as pawns for feminists but feminists at the root of their movement do not want them in their ranks. Confident men aren’t into white knighting; it just doesn’t make sense to sell out like this. Confident men protect the women in their lives and strangers who are truly in trouble, confident guys aren’t brandishing a shield to try and win chicks. White knights do this and it’s the main reason why they get torn apart in most spaces.

A Final Message To White Knights Reading

If you find that many of the comments posted above ring similar to ones that you yourself have made then chances are you are a white knight. You get into heated online fights with male strangers, you routinely post on some pretty girl’s profile in nice, non-objective ways (even though you think she’s smoking hot), and you are ready to defend her even though she barely knows who you are. She will never like you sir… I am sorry, but you are wasting your time. 

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  • Debbie H

    Surely men will only do this if they think it will give them the chance of nooky?!
    I’ve found most men in life will only do this to vulnerable women who they think are weak or unable to fight their own battles and I don’t think there’s really anything knightly about it!
    I think the opposite end of the spectrum is if you are in a relationship or married, women expect men to be knightly and if they don’t, it can cause problems (for instance sticking up for you if someone gives you a hard time or is rude to you and upsets you).
    As I am quite a strong willed woman with well formed opinions, I find most men I encounter will do the opposite.
    Some interesting articles on here by the way. Good site x

    • I agree wholeheartedly Debbie, thanks for stopping through, reading and taking time to leave us a comment. I need to write one of these about the men who let others disrespect their women… that other side of the coin that you hinted at. Just need to find a catchy name for them.

    • Elizabeth

      Hi Debbie H, I have to agree with the ultimate agenda being – (whatever it takes – IMO) to get sex, because they know someone women will fall for this tactic, usually innocent and/or less experienced women.
      Also, when some men wade in with the Knight routine, they frequently get it wrong e.g. she does not want to be “rescued”! Offer to help, by all means, but don’t insist on helping if she is reluctant or responds with a blatant no, verbally and/or with body language. Sometimes, like men, we want to fight our own battles, sometimes we need support. Choice is paramount.